Ask a Guy: Signs a Guy Likes You
I’ve been getting mixed signals from a guy I work with. He’s funny and nice to me… but he’s an easy guy to like. He flirts with me, but I can’t tell if he’s just charming in general or if it’s because he’s attracted to me and interested…
I’d love to know what you’d consider the biggest, best, most clear signs a guy likes you… I just want to be sure whether or not he’s into me before get too excited…
OK, so clearly you like this guy, otherwise you wouldn’t be asking me for signs he likes you…
So let’s get the obvious, tell-tale signs out of the way because that’s what you came here for:
- He finds excuses to talk with you
- He speaks to you “differently” than he speaks to others
- He tries to impress you (either subtly or not-so-subtly)
- He compliments you with words like sexy or beautiful or hot or gorgeous or cute, etc.
- He talks to you outside of the place where you met him in (outside of work or school, for example)
- He jokes around with you and if he teases you, it’s the type of teasing that makes you laugh
- He’s suggested you two hanging out or doing something together
- He seems to watch you or stare at you
I could go on and on with a list, but what I’ve given you above captures the best, surefire signs he’s into you.
With that said, I don’t think a list of signs is the best information I could give you…
I say that because in many cases, women fall into the trap of what I call playing emotional detective.
The phrase “playing emotional detective” refers to when a woman obsesses over looking for signs and clues for how the man feels about her…
When she sees good signs, she’s elated. When she doesn’t see good signs… or sees warning signs… she’s terrified.
As she rides the emotional roller coaster of good signs and bad signs, she becomes increasingly dependent on the guy acting a certain way or it will ruin her mood.
This is a trap for a few huge reasons:
- Most guys do a ton of stuff they’re not even thinking about… which the admiring woman interprets as some sign or secret message to decode.
- When a guy likes you, it’s obvious… Stop obsessing over details, men aren’t subtle.
- It’s way more powerful to assume he likes you than to walk on eggshells, constantly testing the waters to see if you measure up.
Here’s the deal…
I’ve sat around with dudes in my living room, at barbecues and pool parties. These guys are telling raunchy jokes, talking about sports and openly scratching their balls in public.
It always amazes me when I hear women talking about signs and signals a man is sending them, as if they’re trying to decipher the Da Vinci Code.
Listen… that guy who you like is just a guy… he’s not a psychological mastermind… he’s more likely the guy who was just scratching his balls twenty minutes ago and laughing at “Family Guy.”
Relax… stop obsessing… stop analyzing… stop making men complicated.